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The best way of identifying shame related inference themes to which you are particularly vulnerable is by understanding the themes associated with shame, and seeing which are present when you feel ashamed. As I outlined above, there are three such themes:
Something highly negative has been revealed about you (or about a group with whom you identify) by yourself or by others.
You have acted in a way that falls very short of your ideal.
Others look down on or shun you (or a group with whom you identify) or you think that they do.

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Although there are many similarities between anxious and depressive thoughts, there also appear to be some differences. Worry is more future-oriented while depressive rumination focuses more on the past. Worry and anxious thoughts involve themes of danger while rumination is concerned more with loss, failure, and personal inadequacy.

On the surface these beliefs may seem reasonable. However, in order to show their erroneous and distorted nature, they are repeated below with some useful questions that the metacognitive therapist uses to reframe them:
“If I worry I will be prepared.”
Is it possible to be prepared without worrying?
Is it possible to worry about everything that could happen?
Does worry give a balanced view of the future or a biased one?
“Focusing on danger will keep me safe.”
How do you know which danger to focus on?
Is it the danger you see or the one you don’t see that will catch you out?
Could focusing on danger make you less safe because you forget the usual things?
“I must remember everything and then I’ll know if I’m to blame.”
Is it possible to remember everything?
How will knowing if you’re to blame help you feel better and move on?
Can you move on without blaming yourself?
“If I analyze why I feel this way I’ll find answers.”
How long have you been doing this? How much longer will it take?
What if the answer is stopping your analysis?
What if there is no answer other than changing the way you think?
“I must control my thoughts.”
How do you know which ones to control?
Is it possible to control all of your thoughts?
Could controlling your thoughts stop you from finding out the truth about them?

At this juncture, before presenting any further detail, I believe that it may be useful to summarize the basic principles of the metacognitive approach:
1. It is proposed that the emotions of anxiety and sadness are basic internal signals of a discrepancy in self- regulation and of threats to well-being.
2. Such emotions are normally of limited duration because the person engages coping strategies to reduce threat and control cognition.
3. Psychological disorder results from the maintenance of emotional responses.
 4. They are maintained because of the individual’s thinking style and strategies.
5. The unhelpful style, found in all disorders, is called the CAS, con-sisting of worry/rumination, threat monitoring, unhelpful thought control strategies, and other forms of behavior (e.g., avoidance) that prevent adaptive learning.
6. The CAS is the result of erroneous metacognitive beliefs (knowl-edge) controlling and interpreting thinking and feeling states.
7. The CAS prolongs and intensifies negative emotional experience through several clearly specified mechanisms/pathways.

“Postcoital dysphoria (PCD) refers to feelings that range from sadness to anxiety, agitation, anger — basically any bad feeling after sex that isn’t typically expected,” explains Gail Saltz, MD, associate professor of psychiatry at the NY Presbyterian Hospital Weill-Cornell School of Medicine.

It can even make you cry.

PCD can last anywhere from 5 minutes to 2 hours, and it can happen with or without an orgasm.

For example, one 2020 studyTrusted Source found that postcoital symptoms were present after consensual sex, as well as general sexual activity and masturbation.

How validation drives our actions

You might get anxious after submitting a big project at school or work, obsessively refreshing your email and imagining what sort of critique you’ll receive. Or you might dwell endlessly on a mistake you made.
But these reactions are based on emotions, the “deep emotional associations [in] that situation that are being brought up, which are never logical,” Dubner said. He offered a hack: a visualization practice to help you strip the emotion from the situation in which you are seeking validation in order to see it logically.