The best way of identifying shame related inference themes to which you are particularly vulnerable is by understanding the themes associated with shame, and seeing which are present when you feel ashamed. As I outlined above, there are three such themes:
Something highly negative has been revealed about you (or about a group with whom you identify) by yourself or by others.
You have acted in a way that falls very short of your ideal.
Others look down on or shun you (or a group with whom you identify) or you think that they do.